Believe,

It is extremely frustrating and saddening to be in your situation, but I do see some bit of hope...your husband did stop drinking during treatment and while in recovery, as you mentioned. To me that indicates that there is still an ounce of willingness on his part to stop drinking when he should, although I understand that the circumstances were very different during that period when he did stop drinking. So perhaps a lot more reinforcement on him about the fact that alcohol was a big factor leading to his cancer could help (I know, easier said than done).

I was a non-smoker. And like your husband, I didn't drink everyday but was a heavy drinker during occassions when I did (as my colleagues and friends could attest)...and I also took / preferred hard liquor over beer: vodka, whisky, tequila, gin, rhum. When I realized that 1 of 2 major reasons for causing my cancer is NOT what I had or did, then it must be the other reason. I haven't had a drop of alcohol since my Dx nine months ago.

I also agree with the advice to get outside help for yourself.

Good luck, wishing you success in this new challeng you're facing.

Jojo