Ambra,

Yep, people are strange. I was very upset for a while about the lack of contact from certain friends (and astonished at acquaintances who really stepped up), but after having some distance, I realized that my cancer diagnosis just completely freaked people out. I had one friend who recently confessed that she alternated between being sad for me and so happy that it wasn't her, that it left her paralyzed with guilt and completely unable to face me.

At the end of the day, I choose to focus on those who really were there, and while I have kept the "absentee" people in my life, there is always now a bit more distance with them.

We're thinking of you, even though we're not there!


Tina
Diag: Aug. 13/12
T3N0M0
50% + glossectomy and bilateral radical neck dissection, removal of nodes zones I - V
Surgery October 11/12
Chemo/rad on hold due to clear margins and nodes
Sept 21/13 clear CT with anomaly thought to be the artery, being watched closely.
Dec 16/13 - anomaly confirmed artery, all clear
nickname: "get 'r done"
Plans: kick cancer's butt