Oh Gayle - As a caregiver I know what a roller coaster ride it can be in caring for someone you love. It's been almost five years since I took that ride with my son but I remember the anxious days of wondering whether to be soft and compassionate or to hold firm. It's good to keep track of everything that goes into and comes out of the patient, as well as to keep track of all the medications so that if one doesn't work or has a bad effect, you can be prepared to check with the doctor who may recommend a substitute. It helps to remember the positives that happen like the the tumor reduction and celebrate any small improvement. Things do get better!