Hi Rita:

Welcome to OCF. I am so sorry to hear of what you are going thru. Cancer STINKS!!!!! No question about it, its awful. Being a caregiver is not an easy job. Im glad you found OCf so you can get the support you need. We will answer your questions and support you.

One thing that bothered me about your post was how your husband treats you. Im sure it has something to do with your dramatic change of lifestyle. That is alot to bear for anyone. Im so sorry he is takignthis out on you. At his doctors visit maybe the doc can refer him for some counseling and even some mood stabalizing meds.

I do also feel badly about your husband. He must feel like he is alone with his disease and is taking his frustrations out on you. Poor thing cant see the whole picture that being sick wasnt something he could have controlled. What he can control is being mean, there isnt a need for being mean.

It would be a great idea for him to join OCF and see that he isnt alone. There are so many survivors who can help him. Since he has finished treatments, he could help others too. It would make him feel more purposeful. Since you live with one of his doctors, maybe thats how it could be suggested to join OCF. Just a few ideas to get him here. There may also be some live support groups in yoru area. Check at the treatment center.

I have been fortunate enough to meet several OCF members in person. Each one is very special to me. The first time I met someone from OCF, I was moved to tears. I felt so much better just meeting someone who really does understand this awful disease.

Take care of yoruself