Charm...I really feel like someone ought to nail my other foot to the floor because I'm just going in circles with the docs. Too many fingers in the pie I think and there's only one RN that's getting what I'm saying. Mike is terrified of surgery and he's terrified of not getting it. His anxiety and depression are out of control. At this point they will either have to premedicate him so I can get him in the hospital or I'm going to have to whack him over the head with a hammer and drag him in. Tough love of "fix it yourself" isn't working and frankly I'm worried that he's going over the edge. So unless the weekend brings an epiphany, I'll start calling docs again. I just want him to pick one course of action and stick with it. Just make a choice. He's on Ativan 2 x daily and they are switching him from Zoloft to Lexapro. The only pain pills he's taking is a lortab at night to knock himself out because he's not having any pain - except the emotional/mental pain.

David, sounds as tho you've been called out by Catherine