Cheryl,
It sounds as if you are in the middle of a nightmare. I'm so sorry you are going through this. I know what it's like to be the caregiver and be responsible for everything coordinating and keeping the ball rolling. I was very lucky in that Richard was compliant and did everything he was supposed to do with very little complaining. I was still responsible for things running smoothly and covering all bases and was stressed and exhausted most of the time.

Was your husband difficult before the treatments began? Could this behavior be from a reaction to the meds. The behavior is irrational and if he is normally a calmer, logical person, this would be out of character. It sounds like he's at the end of his rope and has snapped. Men deal with things so differently then we do. His whole life has changed forever and that is difficult for a man to accept. We women are stronger emotionally and can "weather the storm" with more grace under pressure. Our lives as wives/caregivers are forever changed and living with this "new normal" is something we never expected.

I hope things improve soon for you and there can be peace and stability. I know you don't feel very strong now, but I marvel at the strength you show, having a job and caring for two kids. For me. giving it to the good Lord with many tears and praying with all my heart gave me so much comfort and faith. Please keep posting... Geri