Hi Tamara,
Welcome to this great forum which is really a family that you can turn to for the best advice from people who understand and have been or are going through what you are.
As you can see I had surgery only (N0) and as mentioned you must get more professional opinions on your treatment options ASAP.
Where were you treated in Sydney?
Also sorry to hear you needed a 2nd flap and hope that this one has been successful.

Please let us know how you are going.
Gabriele

History Leukoplakia bx 8/2006 SCC floor mouth T3N0M0- Verrucous Carcinoma.
14 hour 0p SCC-Right ND/excision/marginal mandibulectomy 9/2006, 4 teeth removed, flap from wrist, trach-ng 6 days- no chemo/rad.
6 ops and debulking (flap/tongue join) + bx's 2006-2012.
bx Jan 2012 Hyperkeratosis-Epithelial Dysplasia
24cm GIST tumour removed 8/2013. Indefinite Oral Chemo.

1/31/16 passed away peacefully surrounded by family