People are cruel....some times though I dont believe it is with intention..I think it is more ignorance. Of course everytime I speak of my cancer to new people the 1st question is "Do you or did you smoke? " Depending on my mood ..somtimes I humor them and tell them .. No I chewed .

My professors at school ( one a Dr and one a Nurse ) that was there 1st question. We talk alot about my medical issues ( as I am in medical studies ) and I guess an Interesting case .LOL

I share my story to educate others ..not for sympathy ..dont feel sorry ..feel inspired for at this time I have overcome cancer . stroke , tia and now weird neurological issues and I am a mom of 5 and 37 years old. I am not a hero or a saint ..just a person who has had an illness that changed my life yet made me stronger and more goal orriented and compassionte.

I think the crulest ( without intention ) thing that was said to me was last spring .... I went to my BEST friends grandmothers funeral . I soent alot of time in tha funeral home over the last few years it seemed and the director said to me " sorry to have to see you hear again , this must be hard on you." ( he knew my history and was close to all my family I had attended for ) Well My Best friends father said " Well I really thought for a while there we were gonna be here for you ! I am surprised we weren't " I didnt know what to say at that moment ..my Best friend was Mortified , her husband wanted to choke him . I just responded well there was a time we werent sure how things were gonna turn out .

Shar