Good Morning All!
I can appreciate your concerns having gone through the same with my mom, and still continue to do so at times. My mom recently broke down into tears and said she never realized how "vain" she was. It broke my heart because she is not a vain person at all. Her cousin happened to call the next day and I told her about my conversation with mom about how she looks and she said, "THAT'S TERRIFIC!!" I thought, wow...she's going insane...but then she said to me that the reason she felt this way was because mom still cared, that she still has the fight in her! She had such a positive outlook on everything I told her. Her spin on this was a gift to me that I was able to relate it back to my mom and it gave her a boost that she really needed. One bit of advice that I would like to share is that you have had or are having a ND, get lymphedema therapy set up so that you can start immediately, as soon as the doctor says it's ok to do so. I wish that we would have begun sooner, but it is what it is, and mom is, as always, being so good about doing what she needs to do. Don't misunderstand me, if you read back on some of my older posts you'll see what a mule she was about some things....but that mule in her has helped her endure everything.
Hope today is a better day for everyone!
Donna