Denise- As I have posted here before, my husband had a RND and part of his right lower mandible removed. It was replaced with a bone from his left leg. Many people have told him that they were expecting the worst when they saw him and they were amazed at how good he looks. He too was worried about being taken apart piece by piece but that's a personal decision to make. Maybe your Mom would like to "lurk" around this site-I finally got my husband to come on and I found him still at the computer an hour later reading people's posts.
Sue