It's hard to say whether he will be up to the house or not. For a lot of people, having something "normal" to work on during treatment is really helpful. You will probably know more in a few weeks after you see how the Erbitux goes.
I keep a lot of my feelings either to myself or just with my husband or counselor(thank god for her taking insurance!). I found that sometimes telling my family members too many things caused me more stress because I have to worry about how they will react to things too.
Melissa

Age 36. Four years of fighting Stage 4 Skull Base Cancer
Can't even fit it in the signature line. I've tried it all! 5 surgeries, IMRT, cyberknife, cisplatin, erbitux, AIM, taxotere, carboplatin.