Hi Steph - welcome to the group and our prayers are with you and your family. We also have a little boy - he'll be three soon. My husband is just getting started on this roller coaster ride or journey to hell, whichever I'm in the mood to call it from day to day :-). I don't have help on any of the questions since we aren't there yet, but I do know that my hubby finally told me I was kind of getting on his nerves being positive - sometimes we just need to realistic and talk about our fears. And I realized that with some friends of mine and one of Dan's doctors - I needed my fears validated. You guys may have already done this, but it was a mistake I made so I thought I would share. Good luck and keep posting and spend some time reading around on the site - old threads and stuff. Great info on here.