Hi Billy,

Sorry to hear about the problems you are having with the anger issue. We all deal with this cancer differently, but anger is one that does pop up.

Sometimes angry because we have caner, or that we have to go through all the hard treatments, blaming ourselves for what caused the cancer, no control over it and frustrated. The list is endless.

I was upset with my self at first, but later decided it was to late for all that and to concentrate on fighting the cancer and get through all the treatments.

Sure I still wish none of this happened to me, but it did. I am now 2 years out and I am still dealing with all the side effects treatment brings. It is called the New Normal. All is going OK for now.

Your days will go up and down. You could also be going through a little depression. Which is normal for most of us that have been through this. Communication with spouse is very important. Even though you were the one with Cancer your spouse has gone through a lot as well. Cancer brings stress and fear to each of you. Don't let it destroy your marriage. Talk to each other about what this cancer & fear has felt like. I am sure you two will find out you are both feeling the same way. You may want to look into an anti depressant medication.

I hope some of this will be helpful to you both.
Take care,
Diane


2004 SCC R.tip 1/4 tongue Oct. 2005 R. Neck SCC cancer/Chemo Cisplatin 2x/8wks. Rad. Removed Jugular vein, Lymph gland & some neck muscle. TX finished 1/20/06... B.Cancer 3/29/07 Finished 6/07 Bi-op 7/15/09 SCC in-situ, laser surgery removed from 1st. sight. Right jaw replacement 11/3/14. 9 yrs cancer free as of Jan. 2015