Michelle,

You remind me of, well...me. It is almost like reading my own posts. I am the one here that handles all the nitty gritty...paperwork, bills, insurance, etc. Bill and I, over the 30 years that we have been married, have just worked out who does what..mostly depending on what we are good at and would rather handle. Bill is more hands on, fixer of broken things and overseer of the cars. He is also my hero after enduring several assaults to his body...the loss of one eye, hearing loss in one ear, and now, this OC.

I can honestly say Bill never really got grumpy with me but once, and that was because he was running a temperature of 103. He is very capable of being grumpy...I have seen him in action. So maybe Dan will not be too rough on you. Bill just kept telling me how thankful he was...I think he was so grateful to have someone take charge when he was feeling so helpless. I was thankful that he was so easy to take care of...having someone yelling at you when you are so stretched emotionally and physically would be very hard.

A couple of things that helped me keep things together:

I kept a notebook with all the pertinent info in it. In particular, all the doctor's business cards...everytime you go to a new doc, they want all the other doctor's name, addies, and phone #s (I know you know that they make plastic sheets that hold multible business cards..Stapes has them.) I would make sure to carry that notebook to every appointment...it came in handy a bunch. I also kept reports, scripts, appt. cards, and anything else I might need for myself or other medical people.

I know David mentioned keeping your husband's eating and drinking at good levels. I resorted to charting Bill's intake when the days seemed to become a big blur. We had twice-a-day radiation txs and weekly chemo and that made staying on schedule really hard. With two kids, it will be harder. It really helped me to stay focused on the two things that would give him the best healing powers...nutrition and hydration.

Keep posting and we will be there for you,

Deb