Hi Michelle
I just wanted to say I understand your concerns about trying to be a CG and a mom.

My hubby noticed a lump about the same time as yours (Oct/Nov) and after several biopsies they found tongue cancer which is Stage 4a. He will begin radiation and chemo in about 2-3 weeks after he gets a PET scan.

We have a 2 year old, as well as a 3 3/4 year old and I am 18 weeks pregnant with #3. We have no family nearby, his parents are 5 hours away and mine are in England! Luckily my eldest is in pre-school 5 mornings a week and my youngest is in daycare 3 full days a week.

One of my big concerns is how and what to tell the children. Unlike your hubby, mine didn't have surgery but trying to explain where daddy is (in hospital) and why he won't want to play with them when he comes home and take them swimming/skating etc is going to be difficult too.

Have you both decided what to tell your youngest? Or are you just going to play it by ear?