I was diagnosed March 9 05 with stage 3 tonsil cancer with metz to neck and head lymph nodes. I was 51 at the time .Non smoker moderate drinker. I was not given an option on the peg tube They inserted one before I even started treatment. That and my port on the same day. The peg saved my life. After 2 weeks of radiation I could no longer eat. All my nutrition, fluids and pills went thru my peg.After a week or so it became part of me.I realized this tube was a important part of the process to save my life.I'm coming up on my 3 years since being diagnosed and I'm doing very well.You and your husband must stay strong and meet this battle with a very strong and positive attitude. The mind is the strongest organ you have going for you right now. My wife was a huge reason for my survival. There will be days ahead when baby steps will be your measurement of progress. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family every day.