Thanks Deb and John. Yes it is still a shock, made worse by having to wait to see an oncologist to ask questions after the intial diagnosis by the ENT/lab.

I want to add that we have a 2 year old and an almost 4 year old and I'm also 16 weeks pregnant (for those trying to do the math, the lump was noticed 2 weeks after conception). The timing on this couldn't really have been any worse.

Marina, wife of Craig, 52 former smoker/drinker quit 9 years ago.
dx Feb 2008, SCC Stage 4a Tongue with mets to left and right neck lymph nodes.
Cisplatin x 3 and concurrent IMRT x 35 (scheduled to end May 1/08)
We have two children, 3 and 2, and #3 is on the way.