Oh dear, i seem to have fallen in to the written word not conveying the intended feelings.All i was doing was trying to put forward another point of view,and looking at things from my own personal experience.
As is usual in answering these questions the only experience we have to draw on is our own.Luckily the person asking the question seems to have understood that there is no set rules for recovery and is receptive to everyones different slant on things.
I would guess that is why she posted the question in the first place.

I neither said nor meant any personal criticism,and i apologise if any was taken.
liz