Hi Liz,

You're right too, that is why I put the question out there- I need to hear it from all sides. It IS still early, sometimes you just want your friend to get better quickly, and you forget the physical trauma that they have endured.
Mary's mouth is still somewhat raw and swollen, luckily no infection at this time. My concern was that her lack of swallowing not only had to do with the discomfort, but was also fear-based. I just want the best possible outcome, realizing there will probably always be residual side effects.
I see my role as supportive only, and I would never want to cause any more stress, there is already plenty of that-impending surgery, long recovery, etc...
Thanks for another viewpoint.
LIz