Go ahead and be bossy. My dad's line was "this hurts me more than it does you" often followed by "its for your own good" was used for everything from telling us no to pulling a comb through our hair as he helped Mother by taking care of us.
Malka

SCC stage II Partial mandibulectomy w. neck dissection- July 2005. Renal cancer w. partial nephrectomy-Jan 2004. Breast cancer discovered in routine mammogram. Successful lumpectomy, sentinal nodes clear, RT only-2008 Reconstruction of mandible w fibula free flap-Jan 09. TORS removal of begnin pappiloma from esophagus-2010. Masectomy,rt breast 2013.
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