Minnie - you hit the nail on the head! Cancer changes us (caregivers, too!) in more ways than we realize. And because we have people here to support us in the fight, the infused courage allows us to speak up for what we want and deserve, and as a caregiver, to be able to do it for those we love! I've come to realize more than ever the importance of time and appreciating the special moments with friends and family. I don't talk to machines anymore . . . I just tell people "it's against my religion"! I was on the phone a while back with a nice young lady at my doctor's office she said she was putting me on hold. I mentioned my age and that there were a lot of things I wanted to do before I die and I just didn't have time to listen to a machine playing music I wasn't particularly fond of. I heard her stifle a giggle but she did come back. It can backfire, tho' like when a machine called me and I hung up but discovered later it was my doctor's office reminding me of an appointment. I don't wait or stand in line, and with rude people, I am either very sweet (that makes them feel guilty) or I walk away realizing I have better things to do like fix my toilet or clean the garage. Yes, the big C experience has changed me and I owe a large part of the "new me" to OCF!