Michelle, while this is not a cancer related story, I want to share with you the experience I had. I "nursed"-i.e. supported my 1st husband through 4 yrs. of Med school,internship, and residency and fellowship, kept the home fires burning while he was in Viet Nam, stopped teaching when he had finally made it into pratice, and then listened dumbfounded when after 18 yrs of marriage, he announced that he was in love with another[read 10 yrs. younger woman]I then found a new career, pretty much raised our daughter alone and managed to enjoy being single for 11 odd yrs. before remarrying. It will take time for you to absorb whats happening, but You can do anything you set your mind to, including surviving and gaining strenght from this situation. If you were strong enough to care for someone with cancer, you are strong enough to do anything. Remember "I am Woman, hear me roar" Amy