How awful for both of you. Most times it's the "waiting" period that's the most difficult. Try to be patient with each other and do something you enjoy together to help the time pass before the biopsy/CT results come in. It's the most productive way to spend what will seem an endless time. It would be so great if the ENT & RO were mistaken, but if they aren't, it is NOT a death sentence. Many on this website have fought the battle more than once (although none have wanted to!) and WON. You are so right about regaining objectivity. I'll be holding you and Jerry in the light of good thoughts. Hang in there.