To Wally's wife: I hope your post does not get lost here. I would move it if I knew how.
First, I think your being an Oncology nurse is a "mixed blessing". Knowing how to deal with the physical aspects of this disease is a very good thing[ that scares most of us sh*tless]. Dealing with the emotional aspects that have attacked your husband is a far different matter and very personal.If yor hubby has always been a strong, healthy man,a family provider, the caregiver to the family, what is this doing to him emotionally?
Each of us reacts to the word "cancer" in a totally different way and each of us gives up our independence in a different way.It sounds to me that you have given your all to the caregiver role but he has not yet been able to recover from the shocks to his physicial and emotional stress. What do you think might be the next good avenue to explore? Amy in the Ozarks