Valerie - i'm so glad you found us! There is lots of good information above. My son also said that between surgery and radiation, the surgery was a piece of cake! He wasn't much for sharing information until I insisted on keeping records of medications, Dr. appts, etc. During Tx, he did go to some appts by himself and as time went on, I went with him and he drove but near the end he "let" me drive. I would always ask him if he wanted to drive (so he could feel in control) but he did complain about my driving. However, a few trips of trying to drive and throw up at the same time convinced him it might be a good idea for me to drive. It is important to take care of yourself so you can be strong for later. Daisy makes a good point about having someone else there for appts with the medical or radiation oncologist. When my son's cancer team got together and then with us, my daughter and a nurse friend of ours and I were all there with my son, and it really helped afterwards to share information about what we understood from everything that was said. Hang in there, Valerie - it's a rough ride but you and your husband will get thru it!