i can only tell you what i did in your position and i cant say if i was right or wrong.
I attended every treatment and appointment robin had both the ones he didnt need me too and very quickly all the ones he most definately did.He never asked questions ,never relayed any information he got, never remembered what the doctors said and basically if i hadnt been sat in on every moment i would have gone mad and driven him nuts with my constant questions.I needed to know every minute detail so i could digest and analyse it,and at the end of the day he only got to day three before he was in real trouble.
He never thought for one minute that the rad tx would be anything other than a complete walk in the park ,and the reality devastated him beyond belief.He shrugged off the surgery as if it was a tooth extraction and expected to do the same with the rads,but everything we were warned about and more hit him like a train.

You must as i did do what is best for you and you will make that decision when the time is right.

liz