Karen..........you actually had me cracking up with your "book".......don't take that the wrong way, not laughing AT you but laughing at your presentation of the situation! Boy do I know life with a house full of kids, I have 7 and when they were all home........along with my two step children that I raised and who lived with us......it was complete bedlam. I can't imagine having to deal with what you are dealing with AT THE SAME TIME! Bless your heart.

One piece of advice. Ask all questions of your father and do what HE and only HE wants. He's a grown man and it's his wishes that need to be respected. From your last post, it sounds like you did the perfect thing by bringing him to the clinic near you. Love him, make him feel hope, and help him heal.

SCC Left Mandible. Jaw replaced with bone from leg. Neck disection, 37 radiation treatments. Recurrence 8-28-07, stage 2, tongue. One third of tongue removed 10-4-07. 5-23-08 chemo started for tumor behind swallowing passage, Our good friend and much loved OCF member Minnie has been lost to the disease (RIP 10-29-08). We will all miss her greatly.