Since I have previously responded to Marie-Lyne's post, i only have a personal experience to share this time. In our 1st "go round" with this disease last year, I was totally unprepared for the care John would need afterward and truly tried to do everything by myself. This time around, I have made lists of things family and friends could help with and am getting those requests in the proper hands.The #1.request on my list is food in small portions for me to pull out of the freezer when we get home.[John won't be eating and I won't be cooking] #2. My business bookkeeper will handle our personal bills while we are in hospital[I won't worry about something being paid late] #3. When a family member or friend is going gro.shopping, I've asked them to call and see if we are low on anything.[since I had the stroke, driving on a busy highway is a challange I try to avoid] John's care after the 1st surgery and rad tx. left me pretty exhausted for several months. This time, I know better than to try to be "super caregiver" M-L, please take care of yourself so you can be there for your family. Amy