Hi Lorie,
I used a simple syringe to feed myself, and from the third week of radiation it's the only nutrition other then water that my body had. I would feed myself in the morning while watching TV or while I was on the computer. I made sure I fed myself 5 cans a day, the went to 6 cans after a few weeks. My stomach had some issues at first accepting the different diet and my bowels went south for a bit, but eventually it became quite routine with the feeding. My 4 year old grandaughter loved to help, could open the tube, hook up the syringe and help me pour it in. I always used alot of water along with the canned food and put some coke in there about every 3rd day to keep it from getting clogged.
Sounds to me like your husband needs you to help him be more independent. I know how he feels, I didn't want to do anything without my husband when I was at my worst but sure felt better when I accomplished something on my own. I couldn't walk well for a few months due to losing the bone in my leg and when I went UP the stairs normally rather then like a one year old I was so excited, lol. You pushing at him to do things for himself will give him opportunities to experience these types of feelings. It will be good for him. Take care,
Minnie