Hi Dan,
Next time I forget and leave my zipper down, I'll just call it a "wardrobe malfunction"
What'll they think of next. What DID they expect from Janet Jackson? She was just being Janet - It was the boneheads who hired her. If they wanted family entertainment they should have hired Shania Twain or Dolly Parton or Wayne Newton or something. Such a big deal -if you blinked you missed it anyway - it's just a part of the "roast the Jacksons" deal. The NFL has overly sexy cheerleaders as it is - what IS the message they're trying to send out?!?!?
Lorie,
My wife already takes meds for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder so she didn't need anything new. I WAS a handful! I am probably NOT a very good patient. She was a saint. You need to have space and escape from it to preserve your sanity. And what Joanna said about transferring the reins of responsibility - Thats a great thing. We have a saying in AA that "...once you get out of the problem and into the solution - the problem goes away". It's great that you are back to work.
I am going to set you free here - it is NOT your job to keep HIS spirits up! It's your job to keep YOUR spirits up! Each one of us must take responsibility for our own feelings.
He should be talking to the doctor and the nutritionist about HIS depression and feeding issues, respectively.
You must keep in prespective that this is a difficult treatment and recovery is usually always complicated by secondary infections, swallowing problems, radiation burns, constipation and many other issues I am sure you are already aware of. It's all too easy to assume that just because you had the last rad treatment that there will be an overnight recovery and that just ain't gonna happen. This is when most people hit the bottom emotionally and physically. It also is the time when people outside feel you don't need help anymore -which is totally wrong. You need respite care and you need to communicate this with your family and support network (and what about his friends?). You may find some comfort in joining a caregivers support group also - ask your social worker at your hospital.
