My mom (whom I'm very close with) came from Maine a couple days before my surgery and stayed for 5 weeks, taking care of the kids and helping my husband. She was a Godsend. I also have a best friend that set it up to have dinner delivered to my family for a couple months after my surgery, it was AMAZING. Every night someone would show up at the door with a wonderful dinner for all of us. I also had the never ending help of my three oldest daughters. Family has an amazing way of pulling it together when they are most needed. Give your family a chance, they may surprise you. If not then give them the boot, you have to put you first right now.
Take care,
Minnie

SCC Left Mandible. Jaw replaced with bone from leg. Neck disection, 37 radiation treatments. Recurrence 8-28-07, stage 2, tongue. One third of tongue removed 10-4-07. 5-23-08 chemo started for tumor behind swallowing passage, Our good friend and much loved OCF member Minnie has been lost to the disease (RIP 10-29-08). We will all miss her greatly.