Amk...You are welcome to say all you want here and it's not rambling. I'm so sorry things are so hard for your sister and for you. Watching someone you love suffer is incredibly hard. You mention her attitude...if positive attitudes alone saved people, my husband would still be alive today. Even doctors thought he could beat his cancer because he was fighting it with everything he had. So, encourage your sister to be strong and you continue to be there for her, but also allow her to feel how she feels. I'm sure you are already doing that. You sound like a great sister.

If you are questioning her quality of life, I'd say she is, too. Help her communicate with her doctors if you can by asking some tough questions about her options and the probable outcomes. At this point she is probably feeling quite powerless, which would make anyone want to give up.

I'm sure she is glad to have you in her corner. Keep seeking information on her behalf. Knowledge is power.

You are in my thoughts and prayers,

Christine


Wife of Scott: SCC, Stage I retromolar 10/02--33 rad; recurrence 10/03--Docetaxol, 5FU, Cisplatin; 1/04 radical right neck, hard palate, right tonsil; recurrence 2/04--mets to skin and neck; Xeloda and palliative care 3/04-4/04; died 5/01/04.