Hi Rosie, your experience brings me back to the time when I was hospitalized during treatment. Relatives who visited me shed tears when seeing me so skinny and weak on the bed. My neck was all burned and bruised. But with the painkillers, in fact I didn't feel pain. I was only too tired to talk. They exaggerated my pain and suffering. Don't bother about what other people think about Heather. The most important is you stay with her, support and encourage her.She is so young and can definitely fight her battle through and be the winner in the end. I absolutely agree that very often it is the caregiver who suffers more. My husband's daily routine was seriously upset by me during my first several months of ordeal. For many times he wept! Rosie, a rainbow is awaiting you and your daughter after the thunderstorm. Be strong!

Karen, stage 4 tonsil cancer diagnosed in 9/01.