Hi Eileen, Packer, & Dinah:
Thanks for the prompt reply and the great words of advice. I love you Packer because you always have just the right amount of humor and realism to make me smile.Thanks also for the realsitic appraisal of the OR timeframe-I like your description so much better. Is the next surgery the one where you get the long awaited chin? Do you have a date yet? I am going to share all of your suggestions with Dave, and research my own options. Tough stuff riding out the highs and lows, especially the hard conversations about being scared and health care proxies.

Just received a healing care package from friends in Texas yesterday which includes a stone healing bear (Native American symbol) so now I have something to clutch for the day! Also have a friend and all of your messages to take along.

I'll probably panic in the next few days and write more so thanks in advance for listening and hope this day finds you all well. Best, Kim

kcdc
Wife of Dave,diagnosed with Stage III Tonsillar SCC,August '02
Modified radical neck dissection followed by radiation therapy
'There is glory and radiance in the darkness and to see we have only to look"