Kim & Dave,

My thoughts and prayers are with you. Wish I could impart great words of wisdom, but for my part everything was almost a blur (in memory anyway) From the first surprise of having cancer in a minor out patient surgery; to the radical neck 2 weeks later...(I made them put it off because of a sales appointment. My doctor was not impressed.) I was only in the hospital 2 nights, and thank goodness my daughter flew in to be with us. That gave my husband a much needed break to go home and pet the animals. Cause I wasn't a lot of comfort to him.
Kim, I think you are doing the right thing by trying to be prepared for everything, but as the caregiver, you too will need a support system. I still think my husband had it harder than me. I got to sleep through the surgery, and sleep walk through radiation.
Please keep us posted and know that we'll respond anytime you need us to. If you want to give me your phone number privately on email I'll call you (ain't cell phone minutes wonderful) So much of the technical stuff I'm not good at, but if you need a shoulder. I have one really good one left.
And no I wasn't offended. Actually thought it was funny.
Take care,
Dinah