I am glad I came to this site tonight. I respect Barb and her feelings. I did get too read how it is for sure, because things were not too bad this morning when we talked. I had some hope then. As for my kids, Barb is right,they did come to the hospital for the surgery and to see me after. When I came home, they were just like Casper the friendly ghost.LOL. I have taken Barb to many Drs in cities not very near us for surgeries and office visits and would take her again where ever it was. I took her kids to an orthodontist that was 90 miles from home many times too.Some of these trips were before we even divorced our spouses. Have to tell you this. we were at Sam's club 0ne day and who do we see but my wife. LOL We went out the door and Barb asked me what I was going to do. I said we are going back in and then we went up to my wife and I introduced them. Heck, we even stayed at a motel 2 times when we were away from home
for one surgery she had, she told her husband I was sleeping on the floor the 1st time and the 2nd told him I was sleeping on the couch. Oh my we had a LOT of good times. He was dumb enough to believe her. LOL No wonder I love her so much.We had way more good than bad times in our 5 yrs. She has her faults like all of us. She is like a Pitbull when she gets angry and can talk on the phone for hours. Now that upset me. I guess if this is what she wants, I can't stop it, but will keep trying. It will be the hardest thing I ever was forced to do. I have never figured out what I did that was so wrong to make this happen, but I am man enough not to say it isn't all true. I gave her and her daughter anything they ask for or wanted and probaly still would. I like to make people happy and messed this relationship up from what she says. She sure wasn't an angel either, but to me it makes no differnce.. Any thanks fo letting me vent and I will love Barb forever for being there for me. Too bad she doesn't feel that way for my being there for her. OK,, I know all, i have said enough. LOL I hope she sits with me at the Church Christams dinner after I bought our tickets. GRRRRRRRR that would be upsetting, even for me if she didn't. nite all

Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April.
--- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here