hi all ,, i hope you all are doing well concidering...i know you all are hoping for that fairy tale ending to a long story.. and yes jim has tried everything.. and like some of you said DONT SMOTHER HER.. well you know how that goes.. when your a person not used to the things he is offering me now then YES it is smothering...there has been alot said and done the last couple of months in this relationship that im sure hasnt been brought to any ones attn. but i guess some things are better left unsaid... as for jims cancer i really dont blame this brake up on that.. as you all know i was there for him and with him thru it.. and i also was told bye his kids there was no other one they would rather have for a step mother then me..but it seems when jim was going thru the worst they would call and and talk and all that but do you know how many times i seen or heard from them from the time he came home and the time i moved out? i need not say...i moved out from jims once before this and was gone 6 mo. but went back because he said things would change and get better.. well that lasted a year.. well maybe not that long but i had told him if things were ever to go bad again then i would leave and never look back... but what i dont get is why he has to blame it all on the cancer..im sure when you dont feel good you can be grouchy but not to an extent as this has turned to..when he had the surgery and all that i was very much in love with him and was hoping things would turn out for the good with his health and all of that and for us too but thats not the case. he expressed at different time that he didnt want to get married and not only to me did he say that.. it hurt ... and i dont feel i need to be where im not wanted.. but only for that house guest... so its better that i move on and wish him the best with his health ,, and i wish you all the best with yours also..oh and no im not saying im perfect in any way lord knows im not and im sure i have done wrong but i do think this is for the best