I wholly accept that smokers (and cancer survivors) have the right NOT to be judged. I don't pretend to know what a smoker goes thru in trying to quit, because I don't. However, I think I have the right NOT to breathe the smoker's smoke. Nobody smokes in front of me. I don't go anyplace where people smoke. I feel I have the right to say what comes into my house especially if it is smoke. When my smoker son comes to my house, he smokes outside no matter how cold it gets and no one nags him about it. He also smokes outside at his own house. My non-smoker son had a girlfriend a while back who was a smoker and whenever she was with him at my son's house, she wore a nicotine patch that he bought for her. If I travel by car with a smoker, I tell them about how I get violent headaches when I'm around smoke and that they cannot smoke in my car but I am very happy to make as many stops as they wish for them to smoke outside my car. Or we can use two cars.