I went with Dennis to Johns Hopkins today. He will have to face surgery this time around.........base of tongue reconstruction, lymph nodes removed, trach, feeding tube (again!)....and most probably, radiation to the tongue graft.

The doctor smelled the smoke on his clothes, and went through the whole speech on why he had to quit. My husband does not lie....never has to my knowledge....he looked at this doctor, promised he would quit, and promptly left to find a smoking area.

It may be easy for you to sit back and pass judgement on someone you find inferior, but, you don't know this man. If you did, you would understand how far he's come, how hard he works for his family, and never asks for anything in return..........he just smokes.

It's not fair to judge anyone....and especially someone who already feels quilty for putting his family (not to mention himself) through the cancer treatments. How dare you?

Love,
Mandi