Minnie, you are my hero, too!
Here's my two cents worth on the looks issue, I know that I do not look like my old self, but alas, I am also quickly approaching age 50. The surgery on my tongue, neck dissection and radiation definitely changed the look of my face. When I look at pre cancer pictures of myself, I really see it. BUT, the good news...I am still here and very happy about it! My husband says to me (when I mention the way I look now), "hey, I am going bald, we all change"!!!!!SMILE!!!!!!!!!


Diagnosed May 2002 with Stage IV tongue cancer, two lymph nodes positive. Surgery to remove 1/2 tongue, neck dissection, 35 radiation treatments. 11/2007, diagnosed with cancer of soft palate, surgery 12/14/07, jaw split. 3/24/10, cancer on tongue behind flap, need petscan, surgery scheduled 4/16/10
---update passed away 8-27-11---