Cathy, we all have our own perception of reality and we view attractiveness differently. Age or maturity probably has something to do with it however, In my estimation, the emotional view we have of ourselves should be healthy enough so that we are not totally dependant on the physical changes which may be brought about by surgery for our own feeling of self worth. Back in my 20's I had surgery to remove a small bump on my nose but it was also to correct a deviated septum and the surgeon made sure I got counseling beforehand to make sure my feeling of self-worth was OK with or without the surgery. After the surgery many of my friends also said "it wasn't that bad" but of course, to me at the time, it was. Since my son's cancer surgery and the wonderful people I've met at the doctor's office and at the OCF site, I am much more appreciative and grateful for the inner beauty and soul of a person than I am for the outward appearances.

Wayne - I love what you said in your post. Your wife is certainly a very lucky woman to have such a beautiful man for a husband.