Cathy,

The disfigurement as you call it is probably not as noticable as you think it is.

For example, I had 1/3 of my tongue removed and a modified neck disection. The neck disection scar runs from about the middle of my ear set back an inch or so, down the neck and curves under the chin almost to the middle of the throat area. I used to notice it everyday. Not anymore. I just started a new job and not a single person has noticed my scar until I tell them I am a cancer survivor and point out the scar. They are amazed.

Do what you need to do to regain confidence, but just know that the scars do not define who you are.

Take Care,
Jim