Dear Dee
I am so sorry you are having to go through this .
My elderly parents are in England and as an only child I can relate to your feelings. My parents have both had life theatening episodes in the last couple of years.
Dee, you have done more than most to help your Mum. You will never have to say "I wish I had " or "I should have done ". You have done everything you could have.
Your instincts are right , they do need some time together to face their future.
I wish I had some magic words to say to help you through this, my heart goes out to you.

May your God go with you.
Marica