Patty
I really don't know what to say to you all... BUT don't any of you blame yourselves... Lupus is a constant war... I'm sure your sister-in-law would never think that you put Joe above her.. It's much more compliated than that and you know it.. Could you not all speak with someone from the church as a family you need help now.. on the ground support.. PLEASE e-mail me if you need to.. I have Lupus and am awaiting more laser surgery on my tongue.. I can only offer that and my prayers.. which are heartfelt for you all...
love and big hugs Helen