 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts)
Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 1,384 Likes: 1 | Patty, I can't imagine the level of stress this puts on everyone, I am truly in sympathy for you all.
NOBODY should have guilt. You all need each other and guilt is not a worthwhile feeling. As for helping him deal with this, I don't believe you need do anything except be there as a loving family member. Certainly there isn't much that can be done about the grieving process except let it happen. I imagine Joe will see his own situation reflected in the process. Many would seek spiritual support at a time like this and people in the Church should be available if you ask.
I'll be thinking about all of you.
Take care
Mark, 21 Year survivor, SCC right tonsil, 3 nodes positive, one with extra-capsular spread. I never asked what stage (would have scared me anyway) Right side tonsillectomy, radical neck dissection right side, maximum radiation to both sides, no chemo, no PEG, age 40 when diagnosed.
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