Patty,

I am so sorry to read your latest news. I think you may be right that her son will be angry if he doesn't get to say goodbye. But has anyone asked him what he wants? At 14, and especially after dealing with this all these years, I think he should be allowed to make the decision. It's not necessary for him to be there at the moment of death, but he should have a chance to see her briefly and say goodbye if that is what he wants. I'm so sorry. You have such a heavy load to bear right now. I wish I lived close enough to help you in some way. Please know that my thoughts are with you.

Rainbows & hugs, wink
Rosie

Was primary caregiver to my daughter Heather who had stage IV base of tongue SCC w/ primary recurrence. Original diagnosis August 21st, 2002. Primary recurrence March 18th, 2003. Died October 6th, 2003.