Kelly, I`m sorry for your lose, and I`d like to agree with everyone else, especially the minister. I lost my boyfriend in Vietnam in 69, 3 months before we were to be married. I still wonder what if ? I think about all the things he missed and wonder how my life would have been different. Since, Frank`s latest tumor, I`ve been thinking alot about mortality. I don`t think we ever really stop grieving, we just try, and it does get easier, to put them in a spot in our heart and keep them with us. Truthfully, after all these years, I still can`t read the letters from `Nam..................Many Prayers your way........Dee