Kelly,
The last day of my CanCare training we had a wonderful minister come and speak to us, and , surprise, it was not about religion, it was about the grieving process. He said that his whole life has been shaped by finding his father in the yard dead of a heart attack when, at age 14, he got off the school bus. The minister's point was that his father's not being there followed him through every good and bad thing that happened in his life...success on the sports field, time spent in Vietnam, graduation from college, getting married, having children, etc. It was not like he could just forget about it; he said that he would always feel the loss. He said that you should grieve as long as necessary and that people who suggest to you that enough time has passed and that you should get on with your life, don't know what they are talking about. Not that you don't go on with your life,you will, but you don't have to act like the pain and loss don't exist. After all, you are human, and a very dedicated, caring person at that. (P.S. rant all you want here)

Danny G.