Walt, Your attitude and approach about caring and sharing this journey with Pat is invaluable to the folks on this website. This is a journey that was never anticipated for most of us and you are proving that it can be done with strenght and love. I am not surprised at your "double majors"- but I've gotta say Yuk to the physics-I majored in English in college- but,like you "I wanted to know" too. Hindsite- I wish I had spent more time just being with John, and less time researching stuff I could not do anything about. What you can do for Pat is to nuture her, advocate for her, and keep yourself healthy enough to see this through. There is ,yet, alot of elephant to eat and if you are on Imodium AD now, you probably need to re acess