Hi Walt,
I'm sorry you, your wife and family are going through this. I am just starting the experience tomorrow when my husband (Kyle51-member name)goes in to have part of his tongue removed. They will be checking his lymph nodes as well. We are praying it has not moved there yet. I too wish I could take some of the fear away that my husband must be feeling. He read bedtime stories to our 2 year old daughter tonight and I cried in the other room. It's hard. We also have a 7 month old son. This is a time we should be enjoying our family not dealing with this. I'm sure you are a big comfort to your wife. You obviously love her dearly and I'm sure she feels that. Good luck to you.